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Old 08-19-2019, 11:06 AM   #1
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Well, it's official, the wife and I are empty nester's. Moved the daughter and her fiance into their new apartment yesterday. We got a taste of empty nester's when she was in college, but she was close enough to come home some weekends and of course holidays. It's kind of weird seeing her stuff gone from her room and around the house.......

We're really happy for the two of them getting their lives started on their own as her fiance was living at home as well. They now have their own place that they can have their way and be together. They get married in two months.....

This will be the first time in my wife's and I's relationship that it is just the two of us. When we first met I was raising my oldest daughter so when we got married we were an instant family. Now it will just be us two, really looking forward to that.......

Next step, retirement..........

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Old 08-19-2019, 11:29 AM   #2
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Congrats, we have been an empty nester for awhile now. Go get yourself a couple of Parrots. They will outlive you so you won't have to watch them die and they scream like little kids all the time. You will never notice that your kids left the house.
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Old 08-19-2019, 11:32 AM   #3
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Quick...change the locks on the doors and turn her room into something other than a bedroom. (just kidding) It's a shocker for sure even though you think you're prepared. Just gotta look forward and not backward. Life as a family evolves...peaks and valleys. Sad now but when they get married, a new, hopefully fun-filled family circle. THEN..the best...grandchildren.
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Old 08-19-2019, 11:39 AM   #4
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My oldest will be getting married and getting their own place in mid October. My yougest may never get it together enough to move out! They were both out of town for two weeks this spring. Cleanest the house has been in years.
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Old 08-19-2019, 12:02 PM   #5
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We've been empty-nesters for a decade, and are enjoying life immensely. But when my daughter left for college, it was tough. I played this song by Dar Williams at least a hundred times and just cried it out.





But after I got over the mourning part, my wife and I have enjoyed a deepening relationship with each other. It's been good.
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Old 08-19-2019, 12:14 PM   #6
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We've been empty-nesters for a decade, and are enjoying life immensely. But when my daughter left for college, it was tough. I played this song by Dar Williams at least a hundred times and just cried it out.



The One Who Knows - Dar Williams (with lyrics) - YouTube


But after I got over the mourning part, my wife and I have enjoyed a deepening relationship with each other. It's been good.
beautiful tear jerker...
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Old 08-19-2019, 12:17 PM   #7
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This is the one that got me.

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Old 08-19-2019, 01:00 PM   #8
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The empty nest means you don't see the kids every day but they're not gone. They're never more than a phone call away and it has been fun to see how my relationship with the kids has changed to a deep friendship rather than supervisor. I figure the parent's job is to civilize the little beggars before inflicting them on the rest of the world and to give them the skills to succeed in life so watching them become self-sufficient good citizens has been a joy. Then there's the best part when they give you grandkids.
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Old 08-19-2019, 02:59 PM   #9
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This is the one that got me.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=1T9apksOv6k
This is an excellent version of Bob Dylan's great song. One of my fav's. Dylan wrote it for his son Jacob.
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Old 08-19-2019, 03:10 PM   #10
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Jeff, count your blessings over and over. Hug your wife several times daily. Take nothing for granted.
It is one thing being an empty nester, and quite another to be an empty nester who is retired, divorced and alone. Not looking for sympathy. Just sharing my truth.
Thank God I have my daughter, even though she is more than 1,000 miles away.
This unsought but heartfelt advice goes for all the couples here. Treasure your partnerships.
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Old 08-19-2019, 03:38 PM   #11
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The kids are not really gone. They will still cost you money. Even more when the grandkids start arriving.
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Old 08-19-2019, 05:39 PM   #12
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Speaking of G-kids. Yup. Just wait a coupla years.
Wifey has 10 g-kids within 3 miles. Oldest is 14. Youngest is 3.
I have 11 g-ikids, going on an even dozen by Jan. Mine all live considerably further away.
But her's are here quite regularly. At least the youngest one's. Major handful.
And the larder is constant up keep. Enjoy!
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Old 08-19-2019, 05:53 PM   #13
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I’m with MsO. Change the keys/locks.

Visit by appointment only. You have another life now, protect it.
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Old 08-20-2019, 09:29 AM   #14
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Thanks everyone for the kind advise..............I did ask her for her key back yesterday just kidding around.....

We do already have two g-kids from my oldest daughter that we enjoy very much. Youngest daughter says, not for at least 4 years for them after they're married.........

As I said above, we were an instant family when we got married as I was raising my oldest daughter at the time. It's never been just the two of us in our marriage so we are both looking forward to that time in our relationship now, kind of doing things backwards........
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Old 08-20-2019, 11:09 AM   #15
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They always come back for $$$.
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