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Old 01-23-2018, 12:46 PM   #1
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My son took his own life last August. I'm still lost. I've lost parents, grandparents, a niece and grand nieces and nephews but this has taken me down to a depression level I have never felt before.

I could use some prayers.

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Old 01-23-2018, 12:54 PM   #2
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Prayers sent. Sorry for your loss. Talk to someone, PM me, get some counseling. Only you know the true extent of your feelings and pain. If there is anything I can do, let me know. Phil

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Old 01-23-2018, 10:16 PM   #3
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Its rough. But I will be ok. Thank you kindly for the prayers.
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Old 01-24-2018, 05:20 AM   #4
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I recently learned the power of prayer. I'll never again take it lightly. Prayers, prayers, prayers to you. Cannot imagine going through what you are going through. You are not alone. Do you think connecting with a support group of people who have gone through the same thing would help? Talking with people who do know your pain because they've suffered the same pain? Just a suggestion.
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Old 01-25-2018, 09:40 AM   #5
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I have seen that some people figuratively hang on the cross so others can be saved. You may find reading the book or seeing the movie "the shack" can help you see how others have delt with troubling loss that makes no sence to us. Have faith, over time it will help you find peace in your soul.
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Old 01-25-2018, 10:07 PM   #6
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Prayers for you and those suffering.
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Old 01-26-2018, 06:09 AM   #7
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I don't know the pain of loosing a son as you have. But what I do know is, there are a lot of people here that care. We are the ifish family and with being part of that family, as you are Beachbum, we're here to support you and pray forypou and with you.............

You are in my thoughts and prayers today Beachbum...............

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Old 01-26-2018, 07:43 AM   #8
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Sorry for your loss...

May God hold you and your family's hearts in this time of brokenness...

May you hold onto the rock way out in the middle of the deep...
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Old 01-26-2018, 08:53 AM   #9
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You've taken a very important first step by expressing to others (that will most assuredly care) know you feel lost. I can only imagine how devastating your experience feels. I believe you should feel very safe to use this forum to download your feelings and ask for help and suggestions. If you feel you lack strength trust you can borrow some from others willing to offer it. You can never make this go away, but I know you can uncover some ways to live peacefully with it if you rely on others. Good on you for reaching out. It will get better.
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Old 01-26-2018, 10:01 AM   #10
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Yes, I too recently, unequivocally, been shown the power of prayer. Daily prayers offered to you and your family
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Old 01-26-2018, 11:58 AM   #11
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Prayers sent your way. Thank you for sharing your pain with us.
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Old 01-27-2018, 05:37 AM   #12
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I have struggled with suicidal thoughts all my life. I first had a loaded gun in my mouth when I was about 13. Sometimes I wonder how I made it another 50 years, but more than anything I thank God I managed never to go through with it, and cause such a deep and abiding wound to loved ones.
Years ago I read a eulogy a minister gave for a young man who had taken his life. I wish I had a copy of it. In it, the minister pointed out that this young person had been waging a ferocious civil war with a part of himself in a battle that no one else would suspect or begin to understand. Finally, exhausted, he had put an end to the war and was at peace at last.
I found some trace of grace in this, a trace of understanding, a basis for forgiveness.
I don't know if this helps, friend, but I really hope that it does.
I have had some counseling over the years and it has been a blessing.
You have my prayers, Beachbum.
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Old 01-29-2018, 12:42 AM   #13
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Beachbum, I don't have children and I cannot image the grief losing one would cause. A few years ago we lost my brother-in-law's wife. As I sat with her father, he said to me that no parent should outlive their child. The gravity of that pierced me. I lost my parents and my sister within a year when I was 22 and a few years later my brother. My entire immediate family. That feeling of being lost hit me hard. I find what people have shared about their lives here helps lift me up. We share the pain and somehow that helps me. I find solace in knowing I'm not alone and please know you are not alone. The courage of those who have opened their lives and souls here is astounding and a tribute to this community. I am so sorry brother. Not much on praying but I'm sending positive thoughts your way. Stay strong.
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Old 02-07-2018, 08:16 AM   #14
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I lost my son, also.

Although it wasn't intentional suicide, I know how it feels, or at least, how I felt and feel.

Andrew was in severe pain and had an addiction to pain pills that he could not control. They called it an accidental suicide or something.

I still carry it with me, every day. I know that it gets "better" but there will always be bad days, weeks, months....

Please go talk with someone. I wish I would have, and I still threaten to. I should. I know I should!
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Old 02-07-2018, 01:42 PM   #15
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Thank you all for the kind words and your own stories. It does help to know that I am not the only one going through this. I have been knocked down and kicked around all my years it seems but guess what? I'm still here. We can do this.

Positive thoughts and prayers to you.
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Old 02-10-2018, 06:28 AM   #16
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Positive thoughts and prayers to you as well Beechbum...........
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Old 02-11-2018, 05:06 AM   #17
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So sorry for the pain you are feeling beachbum. Losing loved ones is the most difficult thing we face during our short time here. Just know that most if not all of us understand how difficult losing someone is. Please consider counseling. It can't hurt you any but has the potential to help immensely. Prayers sent your way.
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Old 02-15-2018, 06:46 PM   #18
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I'll keep you & yours in my prayers.
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