Lost my mother today

08-20-2003, 08:05 PM

My mom passed away this morning at 10am. She was 77 years old and had been in failing health for some time now.
She and I had not been close for many years and I tried earlier this year to reconcile with her but to no avail.
It just proves how precious time is and how petty our differences seem now....now that's it's too late.
The full force of her death has not hit me fully yet but in time perhaps I can put our relationship or lack of relationship in proper perspective and enjoy the good memories.

Dipnet · 08-20-2003, 08:13 PM

So very sorry Stew. :depressed:

Dipnet

freespool · 08-20-2003, 08:24 PM

Stew,I know what your going through,been there my friend. What helped me was to focus on the good stuff,and to somehow get peace with yourself. I know it's hard to grasp at first but you'll come to a understanding with yourself.

Bait O' Eggs · 08-20-2003, 08:35 PM

Shane - Sorry to hear of your loss. :depressed:

Straydog · 08-20-2003, 09:06 PM

I am very sorry to hear of your loss, Stew.

:depressed:

RvW · 08-20-2003, 09:09 PM

Best wishes Stew.

Rauly · 08-20-2003, 09:13 PM

Sorry to hear of your loss Stew.

Rauly

PapaHog · 08-20-2003, 09:30 PM

Sorry to hear of your loss.

Ken

Born to be Wild · 08-20-2003, 09:35 PM

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It just proves how precious time is and how petty our differences seem now....now that's it's too late.

<font size="2" face="verdana,arial,helvetica">Sorry to hear of your loss Stew. I went through that with my dad some years ago.

Life is short! When we were kids we were worry free and life seemed like eternity. As we grow older we face reality and realize how short and precious life really is.

Some 11 years ago my dad passed away and every now and then I look back and regret waiting 'till he was given his death sentence (cancer) to spend more time with him.

Your statement has been a reminder "It just proves how precious time is" is a reminder of one of the determining factors in my decision process to move to Longview this fall. That will put me in close proximity to my mom, other relatives and close friends.

Take care and if you and Aunty M are interested in getting together with me this fall and winter and experiencing a fun fishing trip catching some SW Washington coho's drop me a line.

Dano

Day 37, 38, 39...?

[ 08-20-2003, 10:37 PM: Message edited by: DepoeBayDan ]

Old Coot · 08-20-2003, 10:37 PM

My heartfelt sympathy. Went thru it just a couple of years ago myself, so I know your feelings. Time will dull the pain. All my best.

John

Adofish · 08-21-2003, 03:09 AM

Sorry to hear of your loss. As my parents and inlaws are all in thier seventies. I wonder what I can do to prepare myself. However, life is a process that you can never be prepared for. You can only accept the things you cannot change. Hang in there.

08-21-2003, 04:26 AM

Sympathy and love from my family. At a loss
for words Shane. :depressed:

TheRogue · 08-21-2003, 05:18 AM

Sorry to hear that Stew.

TR

Pete · 08-21-2003, 05:28 AM

My condolences, Stew. Losing a parent is never easy. My best to you and your family.

O'City Fisherman · 08-21-2003, 05:39 AM

Sorry for you loss Stew

WaterDog · 08-21-2003, 05:48 AM

Sorry for your loss Shane. :depressed:

Rich

Troller · 08-21-2003, 05:50 AM

Very sorry to hear of your loss. I lost my mother 2 years ago to cancer she was 72 I still get tears in my eyes when I think about her. I just try and think of the good times. But will allways miss her.

Sea Jypzee · 08-21-2003, 05:56 AM

Stew - I am truely sorry for your loss. Losing a parent is never something that comes easy, no matter what type of a relationship it was. I lost my father about 3 1/2 years ago, and while the pain never goes away, time does tend to dull the pain and raw emotions. Be prepared for the need to give yourself time to be alone.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

TundraIII · 08-21-2003, 06:28 AM

Really sorry, Stew :depressed:

pdxkevin · 08-21-2003, 06:42 AM

Our thoughts and prayers go out for you and yours, Stew.

Smily · 08-21-2003, 06:44 AM

Sorry to hear Stew :depressed: :depressed: :depressed:

lost_sailor · 08-21-2003, 06:46 AM

:depressed: Sorry to hear that. I still miss my mom after 12 years. After a while you WILL only remember good stuff - no reason to remember anything else.

Take care. Grief is an emotional roller-coaster, just hold on and see where you go. It helps to talk to people.

Hogmaster · 08-21-2003, 06:47 AM

Sorry about your loss, Shane.

:depressed:

You may have resolved more than you thought...

CATCH AND EAT · 08-21-2003, 06:48 AM

Shane I am so sorry to here about this. God bless you and your family. Like ******, I am at a loss for words too. Be praying for ya.

bassin · 08-21-2003, 07:17 AM

Sorry to hear of your loss.
Cliff

Flatfish · 08-21-2003, 07:21 AM

You are in out thoughts Shane.

Mark

Cool Texan · 08-21-2003, 07:53 AM

Sorry to hear the news Stew. :depressed:

AtWorkALot · 08-21-2003, 08:26 AM

Sorry for your loss. You will be in our prayers.

letsfish · 08-21-2003, 08:31 AM

Sorry and I will pray for your comfort and understanding.

Tanner · 08-21-2003, 08:36 AM

Shane,
You will be in our thoughts and prayers.

Tanner and Renee Kennedy

Captain and Marie · 08-21-2003, 09:00 AM

Stew,

I am truly sorry for your loss.

Sincerely,

Captain and Marie

08-21-2003, 02:01 PM

Thank you all for the kind words [img]graemlins/hearton.gif[/img] You don't know how much it means to me to have great friends like I have here on ifish.

Jennie@ifish · 08-21-2003, 02:20 PM

You do have a lot of friends!
I was just out fishing and thinking about you and your Mom. I was going to post something here, but... looks like everyone beat me to it.
I am so sorry, Shane. You do have a lot of friends to take you fishing, and who care about you!
Jen

Grantspastor · 08-21-2003, 03:14 PM

My heart goes out to you

Gizmo Man · 08-21-2003, 09:03 PM

Stew, Sorry to hear of your loss.

Yes, time is short...we just don't realize it until it's too late.

Giz..

True · 08-21-2003, 09:57 PM

I'm sorry to hear about your loss... If you're a man of faith maybe you'll get another chance to reconcile with her, I hope you do...

True

C-lice · 08-21-2003, 10:24 PM

Very sorry to hear the news. Be strong.

Birdnest · 08-22-2003, 06:10 AM

Stew,

Sorry to hear about your family's loss. :depressed:

Joe

fishisabonus · 08-22-2003, 07:07 AM

Sorry for your loss. :depressed:

dampainter · 08-22-2003, 09:14 AM

sorry for your loss, in heaven everything is as it should be...perfect, when you catch up to her your relations with her will be as everything else there...perfect, just know now that she is in peace and in alot better place waiting for you.

Tagster · 08-22-2003, 05:24 PM

Stew,

This is Lisa, Tagster's wife. My heart goes out to you. I lost my dad some years ago to lung cancer and it was the hardest thing my family and I have gone through. Have faith that time will sooth your pain and only happy memories will remain.
Take good care of yourself.

Tag and Lisa

Stz ll · 08-23-2003, 02:32 PM

Shane, Sorry to hear of your loss. I have lost both of my parents and my brother over the last several years. Even if you are not very close is still leaves a void in your life.

Take Care

Pete

08-24-2003, 08:02 PM

Thanks again to all for your kind words.
Here is the obituary

abercrombie · 09-15-2003, 12:39 PM

If I Knew

If I knew it would be the last time
That I'd see you fall asleep,
I would tuck you in more tightly
and pray the Lord, your soul to keep.

If I knew it would be the last time
that I see you walk out the door,
I would give you a hug and kiss
and call you back for one more.

If I knew it would be the last time
I'd hear your voice lifted up in praise,
I would video tape each action and word,
so I could play them back day after day.

If I knew it would be the last time,
I could spare an extra minute
to stop and say "I love you,"
instead of assuming you would KNOW I do.

If I knew it would be the last time
I would be there to share your day,
well, I'm sure you'll have so many more,
so I can let just this one slip away.
For surely there's always tomorrow
to make up for an oversight,
and we always get a second chance
to make everything just right.

There will always be another day
to say "I love you," and certainly there's
another chance to say our "Anything I can do?"
But just in case I might be wrong,
and today is all I get,
I'd like to say how much I love you
and I hope we never forget.

Tomorrow is not promised to anyone,
young or old alike,
And today may be the last chance
you get to hold your loved one tight.

So if you're waiting for tomorrow,
why not do it today?
For if tomorrow never comes,
you'll surely regret the day,

That you didn't take that extra time
for a smile, a hug, or a kiss
and you were too busy to grant someone,
what turned out to be their one last wish.
So hold your loved ones close today,
and whisper in their ear,
Tell them how much you love them
and that you'll always hold them dear

Take time to say "I'm sorry,"
"Please forgive me," "Thank you," or "It's okay."
And if tomorrow never comes,
you'll have no regrets about today.

DriftR · 09-15-2003, 12:59 PM

Our thoughts are with you and your entire family at this time of sorrow. Lost my mother in 99. I miss her laughs, good jokes and her pranks she always played on me. Still wish she were here today.

09-15-2003, 02:31 PM

Once again thanks to one and all for the kindness you've shown me.
I really do wish things could have been different but it was not to be.
The thing I stress to my children is to never let petty things come between you and those you love!
My mother had a lot of differences with a lot of people and she died alienated from two of her three sons and all but three of her grandchildren...really sad.
I've had a hard time showing any real emotion from all of this just the saddness of what might have been but never was.