Posting and... "That feeling"....

Jennie@ifish · 05-14-2003, 03:27 PM

Maybe this should be on Life in General... I'm getting, "That Feeling"....

Ever get it?

It happens, when you read a post, and then go to reply to it, and just as you hit post, or slightly afterwards, or maybe even during, you have "that feeling".

That feeling where you wonder if someone will take it wrong?

Believe me, if you ever have that feeling, it is most often the right feeling. If you ever, so much as have an inkling that someone will take it wrong, they will! I learned this long, long ago!

So, if you have that feeling, and then someone does take it wrong, and posts that they are officially "offended like Jennie gets offended.. :smile: " (There should be a real word for the Jennie offended feeling! LOL) then, you get all fired up, and get into the heat of the battle, remember this:

IT'S NOT WORTH IT!

Battles on the internet make BOTH parties feel bad. There is no winner, there is no loser. You both lose. I have never come out of one, even if I so called, "won" feeling 100 percent good about it. I've always lost a potential friend or fishing buddy.

I spose this is true with arguing or fighting with anyone, but... I was just thinking about "that feeling" and wondered how many others have it.

Ever had a battle on the internet where you came out feeling better? I doubt it.

I am now moving this to life in general, where it should be!
Jen

Jennie@ifish · 05-14-2003, 03:32 PM

UH OH! I got a little bit of "that feeling" when I posted this!

It's called "reply regret", when you hit the reply button, or... "topic terror" (like in this case) where you start the whole topic going...

Yip, I have topic terror now.
Just a little bit, though.

Jen

Cool Texan · 05-14-2003, 03:44 PM

I'm sure we've all felt it from time to time. Thank goodness for the Edit button and the High Road. :grin:

Now if only there were an "Ignore" function.... :tongue:

Jennie@ifish · 05-14-2003, 04:20 PM

There is!
You can go posts, and hit ignore on the people that bug you...

It kind of disrupts the flow of posting, though.

Jen

Lucky Bamboo · 05-15-2003, 05:30 AM

I've gotten into a few areas where I was confronted with one thing or another, and it taught me a lesson! Ain't no use arguing with someone, cause they always think they are right, and I always think I'm right

Nobody comes out on top! It's best for me to keep my mouth shut when I see there is someone whom I've had a problem with before replying to a topic. I figure "it's only my opinion" and most people can do without hearing it...

Snapset · 05-15-2003, 08:43 AM

Nope I have never offended nobody about nuthin. I am just a freakin bluebird of happiness.

Y'all on the other hand need to be a lot more sensitive about hurtin my feelings.

Snapset · 05-15-2003, 08:44 AM

Oh, now I get it. I got that feeling..... :smile:

Cool Texan · 05-15-2003, 09:53 AM

Jennie, I thought all you could do is "ignore" people in a private message sense. What about so that you dont see posts completely? Is that available?

05-15-2003, 04:11 PM

Fought many "Net wars" over the years and take it from me there is no winning. It's demoralizing and you end up saying some very unkind things that you would never say to a person face to face.
In a moment of clarity about a year and a half ago I decided to make a change for the better and I believe I'm a better and happier person because of it.
Theres still a few fishing forum warriors left but they are generally a lonely bunch and they most of the time are just seeking attention.
If I see something that makes me want to lash out sarcastically I will just ignore it....unless of course it's written by Giz,BOE,C and E or Thumper :grin: I just figure they are fair game

OceanBlue · 05-15-2003, 06:55 PM

I try to remember that what I say on the board can be read by anyone. I try to think of the people I respect the most and what they would think about what I'm saying. Then I erase and edit or just not engage at all.

It recently came to my attention that despite all my best efforts, I failed to make my position understood. I should have recognized it sooner and quit. But I hate being misunderstood. It's a growth thing.

Thanks Popeye, for caring, for letting me know... and for listening.

corkyking · 05-16-2003, 03:48 AM

I like to use quotes;
1) It's not personal
2) They give me time to think while I'm looking for them and I often change my mind (fickle)

ie: "Don't be so humble - you are not that great."
- Golda Meir (1898-1978) to a visiting diplomat

"His ignorance is encyclopedic"
- Abba Eban (1915-2002)

"Only two things are infinite, the universe and human stupidity, and I'm not sure about the former."
- Albert Einstein (1879-1955)

"In the End, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends."
- Martin Luther King Jr. (1929-1968)

"I'm all in favor of keeping dangerous weapons out of the hands of fools. Let's start with typewriters."
- Frank Lloyd Wright (1868-1959)

On the lighter side:

"If you can count your money, you don't have a billion dollars."
- J. Paul Getty (1892-1976)

"I've had a wonderful time, but this wasn't it."
- Groucho Marx (1895-1977)

And more to the point:

"First they ignore you, then they laugh at you, then they fight you, then you win."
- Mahatma Gandhi (1869-1948)

"When you have to kill a man, it costs nothing to be polite."
- Sir Winston Churchill (1874-1965)

Jennie@ifish · 05-16-2003, 04:48 AM

Cool Texan, I'm not sure how it works. Maybe I'm wrong. I have never used it!

Jen

AtWorkALot · 05-16-2003, 05:04 AM

I avoid all the battles that go on on this side. It seems pointless to argue with someone you've never seen or spoken to, no one ends up feeling good about it, and it's often hard to type out what you're feeling without it being awkward or offensive to someone. Besides, you can search the web and find links and documentation to support any foolish argument you'd care to entertain. I don't think I'm better, smarter, or more enlightened than any man/woman on this board. I've got better things to do, like catch fish. :smile:

AtWorkALot · 05-16-2003, 05:11 AM

Cool Texan,
I see you live in NE. I'm in No'Po myself. Everyone says "You live in the ghetto" but I really enjoy it. I'm in the overlook neighborhood above Swan Island. Lots of older homes with style that you don't see in the Palm Harbor Homes brochures. You really get used to the constant car alarms, screaming, gun fire, sirens, and meth-lab explosions.

Cool Texan · 05-16-2003, 05:52 AM

AtWork, I am attending classes at night at UP, so I drive by your area a lot. I think its a nice area...though still a little patchy (welcome to NoPo as you put it). That area should boom in property value though.

AtWorkALot · 05-16-2003, 05:56 AM

Our home value went through the roof when Adidas moved in. Most of my in-laws are UP grads, good school.

The Fishing Geek · 05-16-2003, 06:33 AM

What would REALLY be cool is if there was some sort of "Preview Post" button that would allow a person to read their post, and even let it sit on the screen for a few minutes, before they posted something that they would regret later. I think that would help a lot of people. Maybe.

Seriously, the sooner a person realizes that discussion forums aren't to be taken too seriously the sooner they will start having a healthy relationship with them.