Disapointed with things

Jetsledder · 01-24-2003, 07:38 PM

I know that this is not fishing related. I just need to express myself. It seems like anything that that has been happening in my life the last three months has not anything good at all but bad. My dad past away 3 months ago, I get ripped off by a marine dealer on repairs on my boat, is it just me but you really cant trust really anybody but yourself. It seems like anything I have tried to do in the last three months has backfired, I crack the shoe on my outboard jet also.

Silver Hilton · 01-24-2003, 07:43 PM

Bummer. Sorry to hear it. Especially about your dad. The year after my Dad died was hard. Nothing easy or particularly good to say about it, it's just a sad part of life that those who we love, are mortal.

There are however, people you can trust. I tend to think it's actually most of the people in the world. It just sucks that you have to be cautious, because 5% of the people out there are jerks.

Boedy · 01-24-2003, 07:50 PM

You have a boat?

Man I wish I did.

You should think of how lucky you are that you are able to even have a boat to complain about.

Life throws us all a curve now and then but you have to think about everything in your life that is a positive and good and not concentrate on the negative. The old is the glass is half empty or half full analogy is something I always try and think about when I get down. It makes me remember that life is what I make of it not what I am dealt.

Go out and do some fishing!

01-24-2003, 07:59 PM

You have your health and family.
Try this
1/99 severly broken left leg
10/99 moved back to Oregon from Alaska :depressed:
10/00 (on my 48th birthday) Surgery for colon cancer
3/02 almost severed right leg
7/02 unemployment
1/24 still unemployed
And I'm not upset.

Just remember, "No matter how bad things are, they can always get worse".

Your family and health are what's most important :smile:

PS: Did you get your pump fixed? You can trust my brother to fix it right, or Ill pay you back for what he charged.

[ 01-24-2003, 09:03 PM: Message edited by: Keta ]

STGRule · 01-24-2003, 08:07 PM

Having a parent die tends to tear your life apart. You have this big black hole where your heart used to be. It sucks all the good out of your life for awhile. But it really is just for awhile. Slowly (very slowly) it starts to shrink and heal. It never goes away, but in time, becomes a small hurt every once in awhile. You really can trust most people. Just may be hard right now. Find somebody to talk to. Even if you don't really talk, somebody who understands will help. My best thoughts are with you. It will get better. [img]graemlins/hearton.gif[/img]

Snag · 01-24-2003, 08:08 PM

I've been in your place brother. Even the light at the end of the tunnel turns out to be a freighttrain. All I can say is that it is times like these that a person's faith sustains them. Faith is no insurance against trouble, but it gives us hope for a brighter future. It allows us to not be controlled by our circumstances, but to rise above. Not to sound corney, but faith in Christ is like a PFD in a boatwreck. You'll still get tossed around by the current, but it will let you keep your head above water.

As the wise man once said, "This too, shall pass."

thankful · 01-24-2003, 08:22 PM

I can think of a man who had lost both of his legs to a drunken driver. He was towing his boat and he lost that too. The drunken driver was uninsured and in the accident, he got away with just a scratch on his forehead. Despite losing his leg, he would get out of his special outfitted van and into his wheelchair and wheel as close as he can and crawl the rest of the way pulling his fishing gear along side him to his favorite fishing spot. Others would try to help him but he would just wave them off with a cheer. He considered himself lucky he was alive and able to do what he loved most.......

sinker · 01-24-2003, 08:23 PM

This sounds twisted but its good your sad that your father passed away. You're sad because you won't be making any more memories with him. You're sad when thinking about the good times you had.
It beats the alternative, could be sad now and happy when he passed away.
I'm not trying to whine about my life, just trying to show people that they shouldn't take for granted what they have or had.

CATCH AND EAT · 01-24-2003, 09:11 PM

Liked what ya had to say snag. Worldlyme I am sorry to hear about your dad. Thought I was going to loose my a month ago. He is still not well but he's still here. Not looking forward to that day. I think there are folks on this board that can relate to you pain better than I ever could cause they have actually been there.

The boat is a frustration point right now. You are easy to anger. This I can relate to. You got to get an estimate up front. If there are going to be additional cost they must notify you and get your approval. sorry that you got ripped. take care.

Re:Play · 01-24-2003, 10:08 PM

Worldlyme, My condolences on your dad's death. My mother died in a car accident 6 years ago, and my dad is in an Alzheimers care facility. I do not know which is tougher, losing them, or seeing them struggle with life. No easy answers.

I hope and pray that you have a little peace in your life, and that your boat and other situations turn for the better. Hang in there!

garyk · 01-24-2003, 11:19 PM

Yo Worldlyme!

First, I have no answers.

What I have learned though, is that each event that life throws at us is a lesson.

Look for the lesson within all those experiences - especially the worst ones - and learn something from it. Use what you've learned to make your life better.

The only thing I can suggest is that many people find fulfillment during difficult times by giving of themselves. Try doing some volunteer work, whatever the activity - mentoring, river clean-up, helping kids or the elderly or the sick - you'll most likely meet good people and this will help to make things better for you. Some people might call it 'karma', I don't know, but it does work. Good luck!

Jennie@ifish · 01-26-2003, 01:33 PM

I just read somewhere about how the "wealthy" never have reason to complain.

They never own the right to be depressed, because "They are so fortunate".

Interesting issue.

I'm sorry that you are having a bad time in your life, even if you do own a boat! :smile:

You do have the right to a pity party, and everyone does, occasionally.

Do though, take the time to count your many blessings. I know this always helps me.

Another thing that my Mother taught me, and is probably my life's most valuable lesson.

When I am feeling poorly, and having a pity party, I try to do something nice for someone else.

It almost ALWAYS helps!

Jen

Charlie · 01-26-2003, 04:19 PM

Worldlyme
Several years ago I asked God to come into my
life on a daily basis, since then I have not had
a bad day, just a few bad moments, and if you
trust in your God, he will never give you anything you can not handle.

Charlie

Corkie Monster · 01-26-2003, 04:43 PM

Cheer up, it'll get better. I had real tuff time with my life of drinking, I figured I was so deep in that I could never get out so I just drank more. Been sober for a year and a half now, and my life is comming back together pretty quickly. Just wish I had a drivers liscence to support my new addiction......Fishing. Anyway it seems that everything has a way of working itself out. Just gotta keep pushing. Good luck :smile: