Ok so being new to ifish and reading and seeing so many posts on here I have already learned so much. But now its time to ask for a little help. I'm a 26 year wife who LOVES to fish, yet my husband doesn't. I usually go out about once a week give or take, and I usually try to make sure that he's working when I go so that it doesn't take away from us being able to spend time together. We both work jobs with very different schedules- I bartend and work mostly nights and he works for Lowes and his schedule always changes. So my question is what do you guys suggest doing or telling my husband when he gives me a grief about going fishing? I still do a lot if not most of the stuff around the house (not to say that he doesn't, but I still do more of it). I'm not the typical female when it comes to hobbies and what I enjoy doing. I don't have 50 pairs of shoes or blow money shopping. I hike, camp, climb, fish, and pretty much anything outdoors. My husband told me its one of the things that really drew him to me. So if he can go to the shooting range and play video games in his free time without me giving him flack, why can't I fish without the grief? Sorry about the ranting but I'm curious to see what you guys have to say. Usually isn't this what some guys go through with their wives? Well an suggestions would help! Thanks
I'm not the typical female when it comes to hobbies and what I enjoy doing. I don't have 50 pairs of shoes or blow money shopping. I hike, camp, climb, fish, and pretty much anything outdoors. My husband told me its one of the things that really drew him to me.
Seriously, if he were at all the jealous type, I would think he might want to come along more if you developed some male fishin' buddies. If not, I'd craft a deal with him on how much time each other is allowed to spend on their hobbies. My wife was a big climber and was always going on 1-3 day climbs. I was allowed equal time on the water and actually fished a lot. That was before kids!
You need to tell us why he doesn’t like fishing? Has he gone fishing and didn’t like it? Or has never caught a fish? Maybe he needs to put down that game controller and pick up a fishing pole, fishing is like playing a game, when you catch a fish your a winner, and you can eat the prize.
Really though. As I have been in my share of relationships it is important for each person to be able to do what they like to do as long as it is reasonable.
I agree with the guide suggestion. Feeling that line peel off of that real might change his mind. I have seen many people fish, fish, fish and fish. Once they hook that first one it is game on and they are hooked.
If you cannot afford a guide I am sure someone on here would be happy to open up a couple of seats and share expenses.
A relationship is 50/50, 20/80, 40/60 and so on.
One word of advice.........Do not hit him in the face when you set the hook in your dreams.
Not really sure what you could say or do… I assume you both work full time and probably don’t get to see each other as much as you would like. Why would your husband not want to spend the day with the person he loves, even if he doesn’t fish himself? I couldn’t ask for anything better than to spend a relaxing day on the water, far from the hustle and bustle of daily life and watch my lovely wife fish to her hearts content. Hmm… I guess you could tell him that.
I am a gal who loves to fish also (and I don't like shopping). Luckily my husband also loves fishing and we go every chance we can. But my husband also loves golf and I don't. That is his time to be with the guys and I think that is great. Marriage of course is about compromise.
My question is, what is it that your husband doesn't like about fishing? Maybe talk him into trying fishing again, and remind him of how much you love it and about the time you will be spending together. Then maybe try going to the shooting range with him, or play video games with him. It sounds like he is giving you grief about fishing because he wants to spend more time with you, and it is great that he wants to be with you.
Well....you do have a problem but you are not the problem. The first mistake is not having "the talk" before tying the knot. Tying the knot is a fishing joke.... There were no rules of engagement put down so you could happily co-exist as a couple. Might give it a try now and see how it goes.
Shortly after I met my wife it appeared things were going quite well. Before I put too much time into a relationship that possibly wouldn't work I let the facts be known. The main one being, there were times of the year when my activities would take precedence over her and those activities would always come first. She would not come between me and my hunting and fishing. Sounded ok to her then and it still works today. We're happily married for 20 years.
He would like TUNA! fishing. Contact Nalu about setting up a trip this summer, you would never regret it, except when you notice the 26' boat sitting in your driveway by the end of the season.
Nalu is good, I'll give you that for tuna. I also know of another small charter which produces.....Custom Fishing Charters,that guy Kevin will work his butt off for you. He is also out of Depoe Bay. Trust me, take your man on a tuna trip, rod or hand line, and he WILL be asking when you are going next!
In the meantime you should find some other girls to fish with. My wife loves to fish and she took an all womens flyfishing class over in Maupin. Had the time of her life.
A tuna or guided trip are great ideas, if catching a line peeler or 8 in one trip doesn't do it I don't know what will. But, there's an anticipation thing, solitude, hearing the water and such some people don't get.
My lady likes to fish, not with me so much but with my dad. Luckily he's here 4-5 months a year and I get to go.
Maybe you could start a couples thing and you could add a social kinda aspect without potential jealousy? Don't give up....for awhile.
maybe he could be introduced to my other half who doesn't like fishing and when were fishing they could.... well it sounded better till I typed it out on-line here.
just enjoy your fishing and enjoy your time with him when you return. Don't take up tuna fishing or he might think you have someone ele on the other line so to speak.
If he's ******** about the money, that can be negotiated. If he's ******** about the amount of time you spend fishing, that can also be negotiated. Bottom line: he knew that about you from the get-go and even admired it in you at one time. What's different now?
Keeper Girl- Good Luck. Honestly the guide suggestion sounds like a good one. Get him into some fish and show him what it is you like about fishing. The bend of the pole and the screemin' reel!:meme::throb:assout:
You wrote you like to hike and climb too. Does he do those things with you as well or give you a hard time about them?
A couple guys made some good points about give and take in a relationship. I would think it would be a good thing you're out doing something constructive and being considerate not spending all the couple time off on your own.
I've been in that boat with boyfriends. Unfortunately they had trust issues and couldn't understand why a woman would wanna go fishing or hunting.....
I'm still looking for that guy to adventure through life with.:excited:
You like fishing....he likes shooting! If we can somehow combine the two then your problem is solved!!!!
Seriously though, what does your husband not like about fishing?
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