Does the trust ever come back?

[ReelBeauty]

I have a question for you all! Can you ever get over someone breaking your heart and trust? I am having a lot of doubts still. I have even talked to my church about it. What should I do?

[ 02-19-2004, 10:47 AM: Message edited by: ReelBeauty ]

[Grantspastor]

Without knowing the pariculars (and I don't suggest you share them in an open forum) it's hard to be specific. I can say this. Trust can be restored, but it essentially must be proved and earned. Unlike forgiveness, which does no equal trust, trust has to be proved with a track record of faithfulness

[DAB]

That is good advice that GrantsPastor has given you . I will pray for you.
DAB

[Mikeymoto]

Yes, you can get over it, but it may take a while. The innocence (for lack of a better word)is gone, someone has broken your heart. For many it is a painful part of life. I will pray that you are restored.
Mike

[Screaminreelron]

If trust could not be rebuild God would not have required us to forgive. Some broken heart only He can mend, but He is always willing. The big question is..... are we?

[chinookin]

Trust can most definately come back. i will share this....After divorcing my first wife(her choice) I decided that a bottle of (well alot) burbon was my new savior as i forgot about her for a while, and it was good. But then EVERYTHING in my life turned bad. Drinking too much, my employer (a large mill on the coast) decided automation was the way to go, so now didn't have a job. When I first stopped the burbon, I had the shakes, couldn't sleep, couldn't think. It was awfull. Then all the bills were given to me by the divorce court, and I was jobless. I went in to drown my sorrows, and as I was walking in, the most beautiful woman I have ever seen walked out as I walked in.
I ordered a drink and who showed up but my sister. She had become good friend with this lady and told me she would introduce me to her if I would not start drinking again. After about 1/2 hr i pushed the drink back and walked out with sis. 2 week later we were intoduced. We had a lot in common. Been drinking too much, looking for something but didn't know what, and both on the rebound. we dated 3 months and moved in together....duh. After the intial 'high" things went down hill. she had an indescretion.....with my "best friend". I was devistated. Moved out and back home. She begged me to come back, but I couldn't. over the next 6 months, she proved to me she loved me but I still didn't trust her all the way. We tried again. That was 14 yrs ago. She has never even come close to breaking my trust on ANYTHING since that time. We have our hard times for sure. But we are closer then ever and happier then ever. Thank God for God. [img]graemlins/applause.gif[/img] [img]graemlins/applause.gif[/img]

[AlseaAssassin]

The only thing that cured my broken heart was alot of fishing/contemplation time and getting back into the swing of things romantically. Hope things get better

[ReelBeauty]

Thank you all! :smile:

[feisty's wife]

Chalk it up to experiance and move on, do not set yourself up. Do me once, shame on you...do me twice, shame on me.