Will you be missed?

[TundraIII]

I just spent the last two days contending with the funeral arrangements and services for my mother-in-law. One of the saddest things I have ever had to witness....why?...because
no one really cared that she had passed. This woman was filled with bitterness and anger...she was not a nice person to most of her family. When it came time during the funeral services for family and friends to stand up and recall funny or interesting memories or to to convey intimate feelings for the deceased....no one had anything to say. There were only a handful of people present and if it wasnt for the obligation..most of them would not have been there. I was one of the pall bearers because the hearse drivers could not get enough volunteers from her family to carry her casket to the gravesite. Two of her sons declined to assist.

It was a dismal day and it sure has given me food for thought...will I be missed? Am I living the kind of life that will cause my family members who live beyond me to reflect on their memories of me favorably..with hapiness? Will they wish that I was still around or be glad that I'm gone?

I wont go out like that....before this funeral I had never really thought about how I conduct myself in regards to my own relationships in my own life...well...I'm going to have to work on that...

[DAB]

Only by my crediters. :wave: :wave: :wave:
DAB
Hopefully by many - family, friends.

[FishinGrl22]

When i sit around and think about that... I say I know I will be missed. I have so many friends and family that care about me. And I am sooo blessed to have them around to. But when I am on my death bed the only thing I will be thinking of is "forget everyone else... I get to see my heavenly father." I can't wait to see him either:D YEHAAAAA

[SharkbaitHoHaHa]

I remeber when my Cousin died when I was in High School. At his service there were a lot of people who were there. Sharing great memories aand laughs. He touched everyones heart. I remeber that they showed a slide show of his life. I was also in those pictures. A lot of his friends became Christian because of him. Not only in life did he Love the Lord and always was sharing the Lord with others. In death he did the same.
I know that he is in heaven with our Heavenly Father but at times I do miss him.

Another great friend of mine. He Died a few hours after he excepted the Lord into his heart.

I know where my redemer lives. Not to longago i started going to this wonderful church called Calvary Chapel Southeast. Ever sense I started going; I felt a fire in my soul that I had been hidding for a long time. I have learned so much about how much God loves not just only me but everyone in the world. I have learned about what is waiting for us in Heaven. I look to that day everyday of my life. So when I am gone. I know people will be sad but I hope they also will be happy that I will be with the Father whom I love in Heaven. I have lots of friends and Family that they will miss me. I know from the Bible that when we go. We will not even be thining about our life on earth. We will be looking at Jesus face. I will feel his warm imbrase. Knowing that I will got to Heaven when I die. I hope that at my Funral people will be saved because of what they see around them. The love, Joy and peace they see on everyone who knew me. If I am still alive when Christ comes to get his Church. I hope that the people who I knew and did not except the Lord will know that they missed it and they need to except him. i want my life to be pleasing to the Lord in such a way that if I do not even say a word people will know I am a child of the Lord.

[Dullhook]

Gee, I sure hope so! It's kind of an indicator of your life and effect on those that have been in your circle of family and friends.

In the big picture however, our memories to others eventually fade (although often very slowly and with much pain) like "dust in the wind."

What really matters of course, is our faith and reception of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.

This life is is a speck of dust compared to the eternal life that awaits us with our loving creator! :flowered:

[sharkcatcher2]

Sure makes one think, huh? I too am wondering if I will be missed. Something to be sure to be praying about and doing something about. Can't change the past, but by the grace of God mabe we can change the future. Thanks for the encouragement.

[WyldHen]

Wow, what a sad story Tundra. :depressed: It breaks my heart.

I myself am blessed with many friends and a large, loving family and I know how much I will be missed. :angel:
You see I have recently come to terms with my own mortality, and I am scared, but my faith eases my fears. :bearhug: I need a lung transplant. I am starting to make my wishes known to my loved ones, and not just verbaly. It is important to have something in writing too.
I am still young, just turned 30. I never could have imagined my life would turn out this way. :shrug: But I'm not angry anymore, I know there is a plan for me, and a place in heaven. :angel1:

[fishnwHim]

I have pondered this thread for sometime now , and have come to a couple conclusions about my own life. I believe that I have done a decent job of nurtureing relationships along my path in life ( Family , Friends, etc. ) But it causes me to wonder have I made a difference, and more importantly can I do more ? Thanks for your post, it is good to ponder such things !! :wave: :wave:

[rimrock]

Only by my crediters. :wave: :wave: :wave:




:jester: I'm still laughing about this one. Oh DAB :hoboy: too funny :laugh: :laugh:

[PapaHog]

I know I will be missed and missed badly. I wish I could do something to ease her pain when I go. My dear and faithful wife who loves me more than life itself will be crushed and very very sorrowful. (if that is a word)

If there were something I could do to ease her pain I would do it in a second.

One day at a time.
papa

[Abalone]

That's an interesting Post.

My friend Duff works at OSHU and is an Oncology Counciler.

I called him at work one day and he told me he had a patient that was laying on a bed with his intestines in a bottle. They were trying to keep him alive long enough to say goodbye to his brother who he had not spoken to for years.

I asked Duff how he liked his job. I thought what a miserable job it must be. Very depressing I thought.
He told me this:

I love this job. I have learned so much about life. Someday everybody is going to die. I take care of people that are here to die. Some are old and some are very young. Some people come here and they have lived a wretched life. Family come to see them after years of not speaking to each other. They are scared, afraid of dying. But others come here and they are happy. They have lived a happy life and have no regrets. They are ready to leave this earth.

Then Duff told me this: He told me that what he has learned so profoundly is that when we die this is what we take with us. If we are miserable that's how we will go.
If we are happy this then we will take happiness with us.

These people knew they were dying but not everyone knows:

I liken it to a Child that is going on a train to meet his Grandparents. Mom and Dad want him to look his very best so they comb his hair and dress him very nice so that he is most presentable.

Such is Life.

We must be ready to face dying at anytime so that we are presentable to our Saviour.........