How long do you wait???

[RogueFishr]

Just wondering what is the accepted grace period for waiting on your fishing buddy to show up? :hoboy: We were supposed to meet at 6AM and head to the coast (about 100 miles) for salmon. It was my truck, my boat, my bait, etc. As you can see I am here now. I waited 30 minutes and figured he was still in bed, I may as well be too. :sleep: :mad:
Think tomorrow I will leave the boat at home and make the run solo.

RF

[Tanner]

No call or anything? Unless he ended up in the hospital or jail or something, that is the last invite he would get if it was me. Too lazy to get your a$$ out of bed, too lazy to fish in my boat. 30 minutes is my max and at that I am not going to be a happy camper.

[cully]

Never had to wait more than 30 minutes. I'd have givin' him a call to see what was going on. If he had over slept and was sorry for the misdead, I would give him another chance on timing. If he did it again, I would never wait more than 15 minutes again. :hoboy:

[RogueFishr]

He may have called by now, but I left my cell in my truck. Its his 3rd no-show since August. He has a hard time getting out of bed. My last good fishing partner works to much. He has been on 6-7 days a week for the last 4 years. The guys I fish with now are...... well this is a family board, better not go there :wink:

Anyone want to fish the Chetco in the next couple weeks?

RF
aka: Fishes With Retards

[RogueFishr]

When I fish locally, I always plan it so if I get stood up, I can still fish alone. This was an out of town trip and not one I could quickly convert into a solo trip. We were meeting about 15 miles from my house. it was too far to bring the boat back home, then leave again solo to bank it. Oh well, nothing like taking the boat for a drive at 5AM. Guess its time to do some work around the house graemlins/berry.gif

RF

[bllelk]

Rogue-

My son Mark is back from D.C. and heading back to Brookings today. He will be happy to help you out whatever way he can. His email is: dilenge@harborside.com. He's been in Brookings 7 years now and is pretty well wired in on the local fishing.

:smile:

[bigfishon]

My fishing partner and I have both overslept. He works swing shift and don't often get off till after midnight. I have 3 kids 1 1/2, 2 1/2, & 6 years old, they tend to keep me up late, some nights all night (still want to keep them though :wink: ). I don't know what his situation is, but for some people mornings are just a bad time to try and be upright, that is the case for me and my partner. We flick each other crap about it every time it happens & then go fishing, why make a big deal out of it (good partners are hard to find). Just think it over before you get in his face to bad, a good friend and a fun partner are not worth looseing over a fishing trip that ran late or got missed all together. Those are my veiws, I guess that's about a wooden nickles worth? :wink:

[Lockjaw]

My fishing partner shows up before I'm ready.I asked him to be at my house at 330AM. Got up at 3Am and looked out side to check the weather, he was sitting in my truck ready to go!Yes this drives me nuts but he's never late and Always has lunch for two.What a guy :grin:

[RogueFishr]

I agree its not worth losing a frienship over, and a big deal will not be made of it. But, I have never been late meeting someone that is expecting me (for fishing/hunting, not family dinners or stuff like that :wink: ). I have 2 kids (1 1/2 and 3) and I know all too well what the long sleepless nights are all about. Since having kids, time is something that is spread out a lot thinner than it used to be. Fishing is no longer a before work, after work, all weekend long occurence. Fishing now is a planned event, that is scheduled in with family life. Usually I don't make fishing plans that depend on other people, so I can still continue on solo if needed. Being the one with the truck, the boat, the bait, etc, automatically includes more prep time than the other guy that basically has to just get out of bed and meet me. It doesn't seem like to much to ask, especially on an out of town trip, for the other guy to be on time (or at least close). IMHO. There was a thread not long ago on how hard it is to find GOOD fishing partners. My dog makes a good fishing partner, but he sucks at shuttling rigs. :grin:

Also, Thanks bllelk for the info... again :grin: :grin:

RF

[Full Freezer]

I must admit, I agree w/ Tanner. It's all about respect. There have been many times I for some reason havn't slept well before a big long overnighter trip, but because I would not want to be stood up or inconvenienced, I make sure that I get there on time or at least as close as possible. I give everybody one freebee, then next time when the time is confirmed they get that "look in the eye" :wink: that 4 O'clock means exactly that. If they still show up late then I don't bother -even if they are lifelong pals. Hardworking people who invest their time away from family to spend time at a leisure pursuit like fishing w/pals don't want to waste that time waiting or worse yet, have to cancel because their buddy forgot to set the alarm or was too tired to get up out of bed when it went off :sleep: . There has been and always will be other fishermen to meet & establish friendships with, that are not tardy or no-shows. :smile:

[Mad Mikey]

They'd better be waiting for me with breakfast!!!

[corrirod]

We all screw up once in awhile but that's ridiculous, 3 times since August? After the first time I joke with them about the fact that next time it happens I'm leaving after 15 minutes. If it happens again then they just don't get invited, friend or not. Respect is a good word for it. I've messed up before and I was the most appologetic person you've ever met and the next time I got invited I was there 20 minutes early with breakfast to makeup for it.

I've only had to leave someone at the dock 1 time and that was the last time they were late. It's nothing personal, just want to fish.

[skrimmy]

5 Minutes the first time, no grace periods after that! My feeling is that if you tell someone you're gonna be there at a certain time, by golly your butt better be there. At least that's how I treat my friends when they tell me the "boat" leaves at o darkthirty. I'm there.

[timinthegorge]

I'm with Skrimmy.....

This is a pet peeve of mine. I hate to be late, and I hate to wait. (I should have been a poet, it would probably be as lucrative as working in the public sector!) :rolleyes:

The last fisher that made me wait hasn't been invited back. He did call me to say he'd be 15 minutes late. 45 minutes later he showed up. Grrrrr.....

I agree, first time, ok, no big deal, make a joke and go on.....

Second time, I'm seeing a pattern! And since it is my boat, it's my perogative to be unhappy about having to wait. I always tell people that are coming any distance that my cell phone will be on, and they best use it if they're not going to be there by the time I'm backing the boat into the water......

My wooden nickel's worth...... Tim

[nerta]

:grin: My brother was always late it seemed like so I told him the boat leaves the dock at 6am one trip.. As I pulled out of the dock he came running down waved his arms and I kept going fished 5 or 6 hours and came back in. He was waiting for me that time mad as a hornet. I explained that the wait for me to come back in wasn't even close to the times I had waited on him. He's still late once in awhile, not much. After 10 min I go without him and he's never complained about it. Ship leave's at 6. He did give me a nick name though ends with hole.

[steelymann]

30 minutes??? Usually I give them 30 SECONDS then bye bye. Better be early or find your self a ride!

`steelymann~ graemlins/stupid.gif

[Jettin' Fool]

I really hate it when your guest is late. I'm up 1+ hour ealier getting all the gear and the boat hooked up. All you have to do is show up on time :mad: I have a buddy that did this to me all the time. Well....now I have my own boat. Bye bye sucker!!

[Wild Bill]

With me and my buddy Doug if he is waiting on me it's 5 minutes, if I am waiting on him it's however long it takes him to get to the meeting place since he has the boat! :shocked:

[1pump]

I had a partner who was always on time, but he'd always ring my doorbell at 4 a.m. if I wasn't outside to stop him first. This would cause my dog to blow a gasket and wake up the entire house, which would then cause me to burst a vein in my forehead. graemlins/eek13.gif

[I'mThe10Percent]

Hey RF,
I'll go fishing w/ ya down on the Chetco! Let me know when your thinking about making the trip and plan the day off. Email me at
Free333035@aol.com
Thanks,
Chris (always on time) :grin:

[finclipped]

Usually when I go, I invite a boat load of people, (3 or 4). If one guy is real late, is it fair to make everyone else wait? I think it has a lot to do with respect, but nothing to get hot and bothered over. I have on occasion left someone behind and I know it will happen again. If I have someone who is perpetually late, eventually I just stop inviting them. Its one thing if its 10 minutes or so, but its another when you are waiting and they havn't even got out of bed.

I also think it helps to let people know ahead of time, the car leaves with or without them.

[riverrat]

what would be a good excuse for being late besides mechanical break down?. i have no tolerence for waiting for my partner to go fishing. i'm usually up at least one hour prior to leaving and if i am waiting for someone that shows a lack of interest in going and being disrespectful. plus the longer i wait the madder i get, which ruins half the day for me, so your either there on time or you stay home.....period......a couple of tips to try to help your partner out. first tell him to be there 15 minutes early.....another would be to call him when you get up....if these tips don't work then look for another partner....

[Keta]

Riverrat,
There are other reasons, like under estimating the travel time for one. I try to leave the evening before if I have a long drive and I am usualy there early. I've been a bit late but I don't like it. If it is a first time and I have the boat ready I will wait 1/2 hr. If it is an established pattern I'll hit the water when it's time.

[Applegate]

When someone is 30 min late its time to go, or Call them and wake their wife up too. Have you noticed that the guys you regularly fish with are a little early or on time,every time. It is usually the newbie who dosen't show. or is late.

RF, you can get a shuttle for the Chetco at Sporthaven, or the Market on the north bank road. Both are cheaper than driving a second rig from GP.

[FishinMission]

I used to wait about 20 minutes..."The 20 minute rule".

But ****** came up with a better phrase that goes like this....

We leave the dock, or house at "X" time. If you're not there, we won't be either.

Short, sweet, and fair to all.

Mark

[wallyw]

Too many of these 'buddies" are accustomed to folks waiting on them.

I solved the problem 30 years ago by deciding that rather than wait I'd rather fish/hunt alone. From then on I made it clear that 0500 meant that at exactly 0500 I was leaving.

Seems like guys that are on time sometimes even help with cost of bait and gas. Maybe even lunch.

Wally