Wow, another thread

[BrianH]

I feel guilty posting this due to my unbelief....

Wife had breast cancer , and was unofficially healed last July when she got off the Tomoxofin. (After 5 years your reoccurence is supposed to go down)

Well, officially she has liver cancer, how bad, and how far it has really spread, we find out tomorrow - unless they say "Oh now we have to do a bone scan". She also has fluid in her left lung and some swollen lymph nodes..... Every ounce of news has been bad, and in a few hours it is going to get worse, at least that is how I've felt since this "stuff" has started.

I was raised Christian, but I lost it after my sister died, my mother died (mostly my mother since she was the fanatic), and then my dad. (8, 9, and almost 13). The old "God works in mysterious ways" stuff, bit the dust shall I say.

So, not that I believe it, but if you've read this, and still want to pray for my family, please do.

I've been so politically correct I can't believe it.

Brian H.

[GraphiteZen]

Just be as encouraging and supportive as you can. Optimism, and the hope for a successful treatment being shared by two people who really do care the world about each other... really can make a positive difference in the life of the patient and how the treatment plays out.

I have posted certain things about my own mothers 9+ year long battle with cancer, and some of the most important things I have learned would be that positivity, encouragement and optimism are such important things to maintain.

To keep these things in mind while making sure to live all the off moments just the way they were beforehand when the cancer isn't or wasn't front and center makes it so much easier for the other...

Doing everything you can to make the other as comfortable and hopeful as you can makes such a difference. I do wish you both the very best.

[letsfish]

BrianH,
I will pray for her, for you and all who hold her dear.
jim

[brshooter]

I will be praying for your wife and you. :pray:

[CATCH AND EAT]

Will pray for both you and your wife in this very difficult time. Do your best to be positive. Cancer knows no limits and has no friends. The doctors will do their very best to treat her condition and it will be your job to pick up the slack and be the best darn husband in the world.

Got a feeling there are a lot of folks praying for her at this time that you will never ever know about.

[Grantspastor]

I'll be glad to pray for you and for your wife

[kelso]

prayer already been sent. keep your chin up and try to stay possitive.

[jokester]

I'll be glad to pray for you and for your wife

:yeahthat: Absolutely! We'll be praying for you and you family too :pray: :pray:

-jokester

[fishnhuntnfool]

Prayers said! :pray::pray::pray:

[flyfisherwoman923]

As a survivor....I can HONESTLY say that attitude is half of your battle. I am now 16 years and 4 months cancer free. I will pray for you all and keep you in my thoughts. ElizabethAnne :pray:

[fishlipper]

I don't post on this board that much, but I will be praying for you and your wife. I know you don't feel like you have faith, but it sounds like your mom planted some seeds deep into your heart, and those seeds can show themselves when you are not expecting it. I can't even imagine the thought of my wife having cancer. I will put her on our prayer board at church. My heart and prayers go out to you brother.

[DAB]

I am praying for your wifes fight for her life against cancer and for your strength to be positive for your wife.
DAB

[feisty's wife]

Thnx for giving us the chance to pray for you, and for God to meet your need's.

[Poindexter]

I'm praying for you wife, and for a renewal of your faith. Trust in God, He hears and provides. Not always what we think we need or want, but He is good and faithful. Let us know how it goes. We're praying. . .

[PapaHog]

I will be praying for you and your wife. God's comfort and healing is my prayer.

[Don Becker]

:pray::pray: And best wishes to you both. Don

[sschwab]

I am so sorry to hear about your situation. I think I may know a little about how you're feeling.

My wife is getting test results for cancer recurrence in her uterus, liver and nodes next week. She was diagnosed with breast cancer in August of 2006. She is devasted by the thought of more chemo, surgery and radiation. She tells me she's not sure if she can do it again if she gets a poor prognosis. She's only had a little more than a year getting back to normal since finishing 7 months of treatment.

I don't want to have to explain to my 12 and 10 year old sons that God needs their Mom more than they do. I'm a lifelong Catholic and have always believed in the power of faith and prayer. I've spent the last two years praying for help, understanding, strength and forgiveness for even questioning God's will. But I think I'm about prayed out for us.

Tell you what, I'll pray for your wife and family, and you pray for mine. Maybe we'll both get lucky.

[happybrew]

I feel guilty posting this due to my unbelief....

Wife had breast cancer , and was unofficially healed last July when she got off the Tomoxofin. (After 5 years your reoccurence is supposed to go down)

Well, officially she has liver cancer, how bad, and how far it has really spread, we find out tomorrow - unless they say "Oh now we have to do a bone scan". She also has fluid in her left lung and some swollen lymph nodes..... Every ounce of news has been bad, and in a few hours it is going to get worse, at least that is how I've felt since this "stuff" has started.

I was raised Christian, but I lost it after my sister died, my mother died (mostly my mother since she was the fanatic), and then my dad. (8, 9, and almost 13). The old "God works in mysterious ways" stuff, bit the dust shall I say.

So, not that I believe it, but if you've read this, and still want to pray for my family, please do.

I've been so politically correct I can't believe it.

Feeling FUBAR,

Brian H.

Brian:

You have my prayers. You've been very politically correct. :wink: Please allow me to be politically incorrect. :flowered:

You don't have unbelief. You have difficulty with belief. That's not a problem. God will meet you where you are. God is Love, and the ultimate worship of God is love of your neighbor. Your wife is your neighbor, and you love her.

You need to know that the test of your love is found in the difficulties that it entails, and your wife's illness and your response is proof of your love, and undoubtedly you love her no matter what imperfections that may hold. This is, whether you believe it or not, worship of God.

You need to know that God smiles upon you when you persevere despite trouble and difficulty. God loves you and your spouse, and knows that we don't have everything perfect and available to us, but sees our love in what we do, and counts this as worship of Him. In your troubles right now, you are more perfect to Him through your love than any professing Christian cruising along on auto pilot.

May God Bless you and your wife, no matter what happens, and hold you close and love you, as you show love in your life.

happybrew

[CGRFish]

Praying for you wife, and for you... Somewhere down inside you is belief, or you wouldnt be asking for prayer... I pray that God will work in amazing and wonderous ways in your wifes situation and your life.

[Dullhook]

God loves you Brian, and your beloved wife in a way that none of us as His special human creation will ever be able to comprehend. At least not until we meet our Savior face to face on the other side. When we lose any loved one to death it breaks our hearts... so it's not unusual for any of us to question our faith. Why did this happen? What we must always remember is the fact that Jesus died for us and defeated death and the world through His resurrection. Our life as believers will come to end during this temporary existence but through our saving faith in Christ we will live eternally with Him in a place so magnificent that it dwarfs our greatest hopes.

Keep praying and many here will pray with you. Our God is one of miracles.

[Eagleclaw]

I will pray for you and your wife. Be strong:pray::pray: