Bad Joke, God

[feisty's wife]

My wife and I married late, and we have two boy's, one 11, one 8. The oldest has been diagnosed with Asperger's, the youngest is ADD, and very smart. I worry about the life the oldest will have, as he is a real 'challenge'at time's,. The only thing that make's sense to me, in sending kid's into this messed up world in a messed up state, is re-incarnation...bringing past life trauma into this next life, for lesson's, I suppose.I feel so totally inadequate as a father, my wife and boy's say I am a good daddy, but I just do not seem to have the patience I need, struggle with depression as a result of this, sometime's really have to deal with a rotten attitude toward's the 11 year old, which I manage to conceal.I know there are other's here with kid's with this problem, having fun?Still havn't had the first drink today:):):)

[JDarr]

I have never felt your pain, but I have felt real pain. The only thing that has ever made it leave me is the blood of Jesus. He's the answer to every question I can't find an answer to.

God and I both love you brother,

JD

[Ryan Pultz]

As a Father of a 10 year old son with Asperger's and ADD it is hard. They can at times get on your nerves but with God's help it is easer then with out. We have found that meds help with the ADD but Asperger's there is no drug for it and well all you can do it work with them to make things better. Daniel is in a special class in school and we work with him at home. i to find myself getting frustrated but at that point I just need to take a deep breath and remember these are the cards God has given us and we have to play them the best we can. And we have to look at it this way sometimes you think it is hard on us how do you think it is on the kids with Asperger's it has to be just as hard at times if not harder. I will be praying for yuo brother May God's hand be on your Family rp

[CGRFish]

I'll be praying for you and your sons. :pray::pray:

[rimrock]

Have you and your wife considered joining a support group for parent of children with special needs? These groups can be very helpful with consistent ongoing support and just building meaningful relationships with others who certainly understand the emotional ups and downs.

[PapaHog]

I will pray for your family. Especially you as you follow God's will in your life.:pray:

[SharkbaitHoHaHa]

Does your son that has Asperger's does he go to a regular school? Where do you live? I used to go to a support group for parents once a month on Momday. Sense Ryan went to working M-Th I can not go anymore. If you live in North Clackamas, and Multnomah School District. You can go to this meeting. It helped Ryan and I out with a lot of idea's for us and Daniel. Does your son go to a specialized classroom for his needs or just go to a Special Education room a few times a day? Anyway, at times I struggle with dealing with Daniel. He can get a bit frustrating. I also look at it that he is proably more frustrated than I am at him. With a lot of help from his teacher and his specialist and concerta. We are doing pretty well. As Daniel changes so willwe need to on how we work with him. Daniel is very smart and I enjoy being with him and I miss him when he or I are away.

God is the best way to help you sort out how you feel and to help you in your struggles.

God Bless. Rp and I will pray for you.

[JustCallMeDave]

There are A.S. support groups available for both face-to-face meetings and online support.

[DAB]

Sent ya a PM

[feisty's wife]

Sent ya a PMDab, thnx very much for understanding, we live over here in Vancouver, my wife is wanting me to speak with my Dr about depression,Andrew is in a Public school, has an IEP, we had a bad scene last night over his not wanting to eat what I fixed, I try and explain, this is a home, not a cafe....I get so tired at time's, struggle with thought's of suicide, though I know how it would hurt my family, you just get so freakin tired of it all.:passout:

[PapaHog]

Depression is just about the worst feeling I know. I hate it. I suffered with it for years and years. So much so that I self medicated in one way or another for 25 years.

After the VA doctors recognize it I was given meds and trust me they helped. Not over night but in a week or so the depression left me. I was able to start a normal life. Praise God.

I still have down days but NOTHING like depression. Life is good.

My prayer if for you. That you will seek medical help for the depression. Life is too short and too good to let the depression rule your days.

I am praying for you Feisty. :pray::pray::pray:

[Grantspastor]

Feisty...lots of people struggle with depression. IMHO it is near epidemic. Go see the Dr. He may be able to help you. You have nothing to lose by trying. You're in a hard situation, and there's no shame in seeking help. Lots of men I talk to are reluctant to seek help. I encourage you to go. It will make your wife feel better too. If the Dr. says he can't help you...call another one. If he gives you a prescription and it doesn't help, ask to try another. There are several available and they help many people.

[DTSportsman]

Feisty...lots of people struggle with depression. IMHO it is near epidemic. Go see the Dr. He may be able to help you. You have nothing to lose by trying. You're in a hard situation, and there's no shame in seeking help. Lots of men I talk to are reluctant to seek help. I encourage you to go. It will make your wife feel better too. If the Dr. says he can't help you...call another one. If he gives you a prescription and it doesn't help, ask to try another. There are several available and they help many people.

:yeahthat: And Pray,Pray,Pray God created all things, including Doctors He will want you to use them. I too will pray for you and your Family.

Daryn

[CGRFish]

Feisty, I can't encourage you enough to get some help for the depression. I battled it for years, and finally my doc convinced me to try medication. It doesnt make the world perfect, but it helps you keep your perspective. When I get down, its hard to look up to God, so I go down further. Take the steps, and get some help. I'll be praying for you.

[Jennie@ifish]

I'll pray for you too, Feisty.
I grew up in a family that didn't mention the word "Marfan". I didn't fit into a perfect family and I wonder sometimes if my parents didn't feel that I was a bad joke too, sometimes.
I think it's fairly normal to think things like that, although alot of people will act like you are selfish and crazy for ever thinking something like that.
We are all alot more selfish and crazy, each one of us... than we'd ever like to admit. :)
So.. that said, go get help for depression and I bet that there will be alot more sunshine in your life. With that and prayer, you will go far!
hang in there with the kids. They need you more than you know!

[Dullhook]

Well my friend, as one who suffered from chronic depression for a good part of his life, I can truly understand where you are coming from. It's difficult for many folks to understand what it's like to dread getting out of bed every day and having to face a world and life that only brings more heartbreak, pain, and seemingly insurmountable problems. Life is tough for everybody, but one suffering from severe depression has difficulty dealing with just about everything.

The only thing that has ever made it leave me is the blood of Jesus. He's the answer to every question I can't find an answer to.


How very true!

I'll tell you a personal true story. The initial mistake I made was looking to the "world" to provide answers to my depression. Let's see...maybe I can ease the pain by self-medicating and partying with drugs. Lots of sex and drugs...that'll do it. Look how happy all those rockers are! Ran the gamut from prescription drugs to heroin along with all the garbage that type of lifestyle brings with it. Of course all that wound up doing was alienating loved ones and earning some well deserved jail time. Broken lust affairs, hurtful relationships, things were gettin' worse and all self esteem and worth was lost. Well I'll try it the legal recommended way. Went to psychiatrists, psychologists, family counselors, therapists, everybody but voodoo doctors. They tried antidepressants, tranquilizers, group sessions, yoga, hypnosis, transcendental meditation, you name it. I had no reason to continue living. It was hopeless and nobody had any answers.

One night near the end I came home in a drug induced stupor and collapsed on the bed in tears. I had no personal relationship with "god" because I didn't really know who He was. All of these different religions were confusing and all claimed to have the answer. Nobody had ever shared Jesus or His gospel with me but that night in absolute desperation I cried out to Him for help. I asked Him to please forgive me for the selfish, ugly life I lived and to give me direction on how to get rid of this pain. I submit to you Jesus, and if you are really there and willing please take me out of this hell.

I'll tell you feisty, that was the beginning of a new life. I know that your problems aren't the same as mine were but the cure is the same. It was a slow but progressive recovery that continues even after several years to get better and better. Jesus didn't need pills or therapy sessions to cast out demons from the tormented or give sight to the blind. He didn't when He walked this earth and He doesn't today seated to the right side of the Father as High Priest. My Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, the true living God, is the Great Physician and Healer to all who call upon Him and all shall be recipients of His overflowing love and grace. He has given all who trust in Him a renewed purpose in life and freedom from Satan and the depression he tortures us with........ Jeremiah 29:11-13

"For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the Lord, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end. Then shall ye call upon me, and ye shall go and pray unto me, and I will hearken unto you. And ye shall seek me, and find me, when ye shall search for me with all your heart." Amen.

[feisty's wife]

I would be foolish to dis-regard all of the kind advice/experiance, I have an apt with my Dr., thank you, all.

[Grantspastor]

Excellent. We'll keep praying

[PapaHog]

God bless you Feisty. I am praying for you. :pray:

[Ryan Pultz]

I would be foolish to dis-regard all of the kind advice/experiance, I have an apt with my Dr., thank you, all.


You will thank yourself and your Family will thank you God bless still praying for ay rp

[eddie haskel]

Feist my brother.....

If you had cancer, would you not take the proper steps to deal with the implications it dealt on you, so you could live a better life....?

OK.....you know the answer buddy :flowered:

[shinnookums]

Praying for you too. I have 11 and 8 year old boys myself of which the youngest is autistic. I know it's tough. Hang in there man, God's grace is sufficient for your every need.

[Ryan Pultz]

Hey dont forget to come to the ifish autism get together PM me if you want more info rp

[Duckwheat]

Jiminy Fiesty, God sure did put an extra load on you. Your feelings are all valid. I think you have to have faith that you will do the best you can. It will not always be perfect, none of us are.

Seven or eight years ago you hardly ever heard of Aspergers. The little clinic I was in Parma we had 4 kids diagnosed with it.

Hang in there, get help when you need it. This board and the notes I see people sharing their life expereinces are invaluable. If you can take comfort in knowing you are not alone and people are thinking of you and care.

Good for you for not drinking. It only looks like it might help when things look desperate.

Just do the best you can...............

DW

[feisty's wife]

Thnx so much for all of the understanding, I was diagnosed depression, she is giving me a mild med, which is helping, again, thnx all:):):)20 mg of Celexa

[Grantspastor]

Good news Feisty! I'm glad your feeling better

Dave

[PapaHog]

That is great news. Still praying for you and your family. God is good.:pray:

[feisty's wife]

Been over two week's now, my wife and family/friend's are very pleased with the result, as am I, I feel a lot more like myself:):):)

[Ryan Pultz]

Been over two week's now, my wife and family/friend's are very pleased with the result, as am I, I feel a lot more like myself:):):)

Praise the Lord still praying for you rp

[DAB]

Feisty,
Thats good news:applause::applause::applause:, Now stay on the med's.:excited::excited::excited:
Gives a whole new meaning to life.:D:D
DAB

[feisty's wife]

:pray:Reading all of the many need's on here, make's me realize, thing's could be a lot worse...I pray for those I read about on here...God bless you all:pray:

[joemomma]

:pray:Reading all of the many need's on here, make's me realize, thing's could be a lot worse...I pray for those I read about on here...God bless you all:pray:

Thanks Feisty! We need it! And god bless you too! Will keep praying for you family!