When your kids are angry at you--

[Jennie@ifish]

A couple weeks ago I had a terrible fight with my oldest child. I was so upset. He had said some just awful things in anger, and it was... well... awful!

I was so upset and I called my sister.

She said that God allows this to happen so that we can understand how much it hurts to have children that disobey and are thoughtless. She went on to say that we can relate and feel sorry for our Father in Heaven, because when we are angry or upset or ignore Him, he hurts just like that, too!

This has caused me to understand more, what it is like to be our Father in Heaven, and how much it hurts Him when I am not the best that I can be for Him.

Wow. I am so grateful for my Sister... She has a way of explaining things to me that really opens my eyes!

Jen

[FireCat]

I raised 2 boys and both are now serving in the ministry, was it easy ..NO!...but one thing that was not allowed around my house
Was raising their voice or making any agressive act tword thier mother.

It was not allowed and even when there was a hint...I was in their face big time. Mothers were treated with dignity and respect and for reasons my boys later found out, and it was not just their Mother it was any women in general....that is the way my dad raised me.

Responding to children in anger can be more damaging than helpful but anger doesn't have to be the enemy. It can serve as a trigger to help you be an even better parent. Recognizing the very real emotions parents and kids face can be tough at times. And in a Divorce Family, it is tougher . But one can be angry with out sinning or saying things he or she will not be ashamed of later on.

We all as parents are caught at our weakest moment many times, and it seems to be when our kids are in that moment also, thank God for his forgivness.

[Jennie@ifish]

That's nice, but my point was that when children are angry, whether they speak loudly and harshly yell or not, it is just hurtful, and our Father in Heaven feels those feelings and is hurt by them, also.

It was the correlation between the two that I was trying to express.

Jen

[SteelheadBum2]

She said that God allows this to happen so that we can understand how much it hurts to have children that disobey and are thoughtless

God can't unallow anything, or allow anything that involves free will. He can have "influence" in the sense that he shows us the door, but when it all boils down to it, we are the ones who must choose to walk through that door.

I just get iffy when people talk about "how can god allow this to happen" etc. In reality, he has no control over us. He can only influence us, or end us. If he nit picks what is allowed to happen, then are we really living beings or mere organic robots that are told what to do and what to expierence?

All you need to take from this Jennie, is that all those emotionaly charged hurtful words that were thrown at you were not in truth. Those comments have no weight because they were created in a thoughtless and immature manner.

Don't get let down Jennie!:cheers: