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SilverFly
11-12-2006, 09:02 PM
I feel a bit guilty asking for prayer requests since I haven't been here in a while, - especially with all the other requests here and bad things happening to people elsewhere. Even so, it's obvious trying to handle things myself hasn't been working out very well (to say the least). I'm trying to remain optimistic but this is increasingly difficult given the numerous trials we are having to deal with beyond the main issue of my wife's health.

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To update the situation with my wife. Last September (2005) we found out that her cancer had spread to her bones which is very common with breast cancer. This was pretty devastating at the time since she had gotten a "clean bill of health" following the 3 month chemo session in the spring of 2005. In spite of suffering some minor fractures in her ribs and collar bone there was some "good" news that her cancer responded very well to hormone therapy and with monthly medication infusions much of the bone damage has been repaired.

Radiation treatments have also been effective at healing the fractures and knocking the cancer back in problem areas, - even though they have been almost as hard on her as chemo. The hope was (and still is) that her cancer can be managed as a chronic illness and she might have many quality years left (hopefully enough to see a cure :pray:). Unfortunately she was insistent on keeping vacation plans this summer, and she downplayed a pain in her right hip. A week after we got back from vacation in August, she was barely able to walk. It turned out the upper part of her right femur was weakened to the point it was on the verge of breaking. Had we known earlier it could have been treated with radiation and probably healed fine. As it was she had to have a metal rod inserted the full length of the bone with a pin into the part going to the hip socket.

This surgery was the last week of September and she should have been up and functioning at some level by now. Instead she is still pretty much bedridden with back pain, anemia, nausea, and can only walk short distances with assistance of a cane. She has had recent MRI, CAT, and PET scans which show no new cancer "hotspots" to explain her current problems. I'm hoping the main problem is her not eating much due to the nausea, and is causing anemia and her not healing well. What has us worried is that her tumor markers took a little jump and the doctor says she might need a brain scan if she doesn't improve soon.

I also believe a big part of her health problems are stress related. The main thing stressing her (and us) is that her sister was diagnosed with stage III ovarian cancer last month, and she is currently receiving chemo. We are all very worried about her sister, but it is especially hard on my wife and mother in law.

To make matters worse, we have been having major issues with our 16 year old daughter misbehaving at home and school. While she is a smart/talented/beautiful girl, she has ADD with some learning disabilities and also has extreme lack of patience and EXTREME anger problems. I am very upset that my daughter doesn't seem to care that her behavior is adversely affecting her mother. I am at a total loss as to what to do to turn her around.

Last (and least) on the stressor list is the fact that we have not been living in our house since we left for vacation in July. We were getting our hardwood floors refinished while we were gone when the contractor called us saying we had a massive hotwater leak with several inches of water under the whole house. To make matters worse, there was some dry rot in the subfloor and toxic mold. Even though insurance has paid for the "water damage" (mold abatement is costing us $9K!) the mold cleanup and repairs have taken much longer than expected and we have been living at my mother in law's house since mid August. With 3 adults, 2 teenagers, 2 dogs, 3 cats, and one bathroom, - things have been stressful to say the least. Fortunately we will be moving back into the house this coming weekend. Of course, this raises the issue of who will take care of my wife on the nights I work and when I have to sleep during the day with the kids at school.

Please say a prayer for my wife, her sister, and my daughter.

God bless.

happybrew
11-12-2006, 09:30 PM
Silverfly, you have had your plate full for quite some time, and not just you, but your wife and your daughter as well. You have had a lot of stress. I would guess that your problems with your daughter have been related to the stress she is feeling as well. Her mom is sick, she's not living in her home, and she's still expected to cope at school and be a normal teen-ager. You wife is sick, you're not living in your home, you need to care for your wife and family, and you are still expected to cope and work and be a normal employee. And you wife is sick, and can't be what she wants to be as a healthy wife and mother.

You have our prayers. But you should know that even in the most trying of times, God is there, and He is watching you, and He loves you, now more than ever. Jesus said "Blessed are the the merciful, for they shall be shown mercy", and the mercy that you show your wife and daughter by caring for them in their time of need will come back to bless you. Never forget that. Your daughter needs forgiveness for what she does while under this stressful time. Don't stop being the parent, but forgive her too. With her young years, she lacks the maturity to deal rationally with what you have, I'm sure with great difficulty, have had to endure using all of your inner reserves.

happybrew

letsfish
11-13-2006, 09:19 AM
Silverfly,
You and your family are definitely in my prayers!
Jim

Bartman
11-13-2006, 12:25 PM
Prayer said for Healing ,Strength and Courage.:pray: :pray: :pray:
Hail the Mother,Wife, Sister and Daughter!!

Dullhook
11-13-2006, 05:07 PM
I'll pray for you and your family through these very difficult times Silverfly.

Please take comfort in these words. Lamentations 3:31-33

"For the Lord will not cast off forever: But though He cause grief, yet will He have compassion according to the multitude of His mercies. For He doth not afflict willingly nor grieve the children of men."

Keep your faith and all will turn out well for you and your family.:hearton:

Grantspastor
11-13-2006, 05:47 PM
I'm praying right now

DAB
11-13-2006, 05:50 PM
Silverfly.
I totaly agree with HappBrew, and will pray for your whole family.
My Grandson has ADD and can be a handful to contend with at times.
DAB

SilverFly
11-14-2006, 04:27 AM
Thanks everyone for the prayers and kind words. I will share them with my wife and I'm sure she will gain strength from them.

Happybrew, You are more right than you know about our daughter. Thank you for reminding me that she is far less equipped to deal with this burden than I. Forgiveness, mercy, and compassion are what she needs.

Also, continued prayers would be appreciated since my wife has a brain MRI scheduled on Thursday. Her doctor is not expecting to find anything but needs to check things out to be safe. I will update Sunday night when I get back to work (no "home" internet right now).

hookumhi
11-14-2006, 07:34 AM
We will pray for you and your family. If the saying is correct"God only gives us what we can handle Manyou and your family are extremely strong. GOD BLESS you and your family

jokester
11-15-2006, 02:05 PM
Praying for you guys SF :pray: :pray: :angel:

-jokester

samiam
11-15-2006, 02:11 PM
I'll pray for you and yours.

SilverFly
11-20-2006, 09:13 PM
Thanks again for the thoughts and prayers. We still don't know anything. She had some bad nausea on Thursday and couldn't finish the MRI. Hopefully we can get it rescheduled and get her thru the whole test later this week.

Bartman
11-21-2006, 06:36 AM
still:pray:

DAB
11-21-2006, 05:18 PM
:pray: :pray: :pray:
DAB

SilverFly
12-12-2006, 09:32 PM
I wish I had good news to report but things don't look very encouraging. She's been in the hospital since last Tues when I took her in due to extreme nausea and backpain. The brainscan was skipped when it was found her electrolytes where totally out of whack. CT and bonescans found new tumors in her left femur and two small spots in her lungs. Since the hormone therapy is not holding the cancer at bay like we hoped, she is now back on chemotherapy. So far she seems to be tolerating the new chemo drugs better than the stuff she got the first time. We are praying that they will also work MUCH better too.

One bright spot is her sister has responded well to chemotherapy which has shrunk her tumors significantly. Also, the repairs on our house are FINALLY finished and we are now in the process of moving back in.

Unfortunately, we haven't told our kids yet htat their Mom's cancer is getting worse and she is back on chemo. We need to be realistic with them but I don't want to destroy their hope either. The reality is her chances are very slim at this point that she will live more than a few years at most. Until now I've been in total denial about losing her, but seeing her in this much pain is forcing me to accept that I will have to let her go eventually.

Continued prayers are greatly appreciated.

Thanks again and God bless.

letsfish
12-13-2006, 05:51 AM
So hard to hear such sad news! but I will be praying for God to comfort and strengthen your wife . He is the healing God. May you and the kids find comfort in HIm as well.

SharkbaitHoHaHa
12-13-2006, 06:32 AM
I am praying for your family. The schools are a lot of help with kids that need extra help with behavior issues and toerh things. As Parents you have the right to have a metting with teachers, and others that can help. To find a way to help your daughter. I will be praying for all of you to be able to handle all fo this aat once. God Bless your Family.

Bartman
12-13-2006, 06:34 AM
Still Praying for your wife,you and the kids.

DAB
12-13-2006, 04:52 PM
Silverfly
Thanks for the up date.
I will pray for your wife health and comfort and your teenage Daughter and you that God will give you strength and comfort in these trying times.
DAB:pray: :pray: :pray: