Busy
05-15-2003, 03:41 PM
First of all I would like to say thank you for all those of you who have prayed for me and my marriage in the last several months. I appreciate your prayers.
A lot has happened since I was unable to login last. For starters, I have had gastric bypass surgery - this is the same kind of surgery that Al Rocher of Good Morning America fame has had. I have successfully lost 75 lbs to date and am still losing. This has been the one bright spot recently in my life.
The week that I was able to return to work, my wife told me that she was divorcing me. She had everything figured out, including who was going to get what and child support etc. It was not a total shock due to the events of the last 2 years but difficult just the same.
Four days later when I came home from work, my daughter (7 yrs) invited me up to have some dinner with them. Since I wanted to spend as much time with her as possible I agreed and went uyp to serve up my 4-5 oz of food. ( new small pouch for a stomach means less food) I put it in a small pyrex custard dish. As I turned and left the kitchen, my wife followed me and picked a fight. I got upset and tossed the food at her. Next thing I knew she had called 911 and had me arrrested for assault/domestic violence. This was the first time I had done anything like that and there has been no history of trouble between us before. I spent 5 days in jail, got lost in the system and had to fight the charges for that as well as the divorce.
I was able to plea bargain down to domestic violence counseling for one year on the assault charge. And I am able to attend classes at a christian counseling program. After completing this all charges will drop.
On the divorce, my wife is not being very cooperative. She has limited the amount of time I get to see my children to 12 hours a week with no overnights. I am grateful for some time with them at this point but she is resistant to me having them 3 days a week and her 4 days. She is also not being very nice when it comes to getting me my mail or resolving the debts/assets.
To top all of this off, my best friend and coworker - a real man of God - has been diagnosed with cancer in his liver and pelvic bone. He is in a great deal of pain, but his spirits are good. The doctor only is giving him a 20% chance that it will go into remission.
Needless to say that with all the changes that I have been going through in the last couple of months I have been emotionally stressed. I am leaning on God as much as I can but I would covet your prayers and support.
Tom Jacobs
[ 05-15-2003, 04:29 PM: Message edited by: Busy ]
A lot has happened since I was unable to login last. For starters, I have had gastric bypass surgery - this is the same kind of surgery that Al Rocher of Good Morning America fame has had. I have successfully lost 75 lbs to date and am still losing. This has been the one bright spot recently in my life.
The week that I was able to return to work, my wife told me that she was divorcing me. She had everything figured out, including who was going to get what and child support etc. It was not a total shock due to the events of the last 2 years but difficult just the same.
Four days later when I came home from work, my daughter (7 yrs) invited me up to have some dinner with them. Since I wanted to spend as much time with her as possible I agreed and went uyp to serve up my 4-5 oz of food. ( new small pouch for a stomach means less food) I put it in a small pyrex custard dish. As I turned and left the kitchen, my wife followed me and picked a fight. I got upset and tossed the food at her. Next thing I knew she had called 911 and had me arrrested for assault/domestic violence. This was the first time I had done anything like that and there has been no history of trouble between us before. I spent 5 days in jail, got lost in the system and had to fight the charges for that as well as the divorce.
I was able to plea bargain down to domestic violence counseling for one year on the assault charge. And I am able to attend classes at a christian counseling program. After completing this all charges will drop.
On the divorce, my wife is not being very cooperative. She has limited the amount of time I get to see my children to 12 hours a week with no overnights. I am grateful for some time with them at this point but she is resistant to me having them 3 days a week and her 4 days. She is also not being very nice when it comes to getting me my mail or resolving the debts/assets.
To top all of this off, my best friend and coworker - a real man of God - has been diagnosed with cancer in his liver and pelvic bone. He is in a great deal of pain, but his spirits are good. The doctor only is giving him a 20% chance that it will go into remission.
Needless to say that with all the changes that I have been going through in the last couple of months I have been emotionally stressed. I am leaning on God as much as I can but I would covet your prayers and support.
Tom Jacobs
[ 05-15-2003, 04:29 PM: Message edited by: Busy ]