snowball
04-15-2003, 05:51 PM
I lost a sister about a month ago, no it wasn't cancer, or old age, or an auto accident. I wished it had, as then I could find more reason and justification. My sister was murdered back home in Minnesota. No, not by a stranger, but by someone that should have been there to protect her. She was killed by her husband.
Since that day, I've been filled with anger, sadness, even bewilderment. You see, these things happen in the news, in the paper, even on the Internet, but these things don't happen in our own lives, or so I thought. I've gone back and forth, wrestling with this tragic event.
I've had time to think, plenty of time to think while out Springer fishing, and finally came to terms that this loss of mine, I'll never get back, nor will the rest of my family, However, holding steadfast, I realized that maybe there are things I can do. And You can too.
I can raise my daughter to know and understand that she is a person, demanding of respect, raise her to not tolerate the 1st time someone tries to hurt her, either with physical force, or verbal. Not to tolerate people trying to control. Both can be just as degrading. I can raise her to be strong, teach her to confront issues, and not hide from them. Last but not least, I can tell others, too, sit down with your daughters, boys, sisters etc and talk to them. Teach them to be aware of their surroundings, even when those surroundings are as safe as our own homes. Teach them to see the warning signs and to adhere to them.
Lastly, I lost a grandmother in Aug, another in Dec, and a grandfather in Jan, and now, my sister in March. People have asked me, "are you doing ok", "anything I can do", "do you need anything" etc. I am sure you've said the same to people close to you that have suffered a loss. My reply to those asking and to you is.
There is something you can do. Don't take for granted what you have, where you've been or where you’re going. Hold close to you the loved ones in your life, make amends with those that you have created distance. Don't be one of those that wishes you woulda or coulda, be the one that does.
Sincerely
Chris
Since that day, I've been filled with anger, sadness, even bewilderment. You see, these things happen in the news, in the paper, even on the Internet, but these things don't happen in our own lives, or so I thought. I've gone back and forth, wrestling with this tragic event.
I've had time to think, plenty of time to think while out Springer fishing, and finally came to terms that this loss of mine, I'll never get back, nor will the rest of my family, However, holding steadfast, I realized that maybe there are things I can do. And You can too.
I can raise my daughter to know and understand that she is a person, demanding of respect, raise her to not tolerate the 1st time someone tries to hurt her, either with physical force, or verbal. Not to tolerate people trying to control. Both can be just as degrading. I can raise her to be strong, teach her to confront issues, and not hide from them. Last but not least, I can tell others, too, sit down with your daughters, boys, sisters etc and talk to them. Teach them to be aware of their surroundings, even when those surroundings are as safe as our own homes. Teach them to see the warning signs and to adhere to them.
Lastly, I lost a grandmother in Aug, another in Dec, and a grandfather in Jan, and now, my sister in March. People have asked me, "are you doing ok", "anything I can do", "do you need anything" etc. I am sure you've said the same to people close to you that have suffered a loss. My reply to those asking and to you is.
There is something you can do. Don't take for granted what you have, where you've been or where you’re going. Hold close to you the loved ones in your life, make amends with those that you have created distance. Don't be one of those that wishes you woulda or coulda, be the one that does.
Sincerely
Chris