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WildHawg
03-28-2006, 09:42 PM
right now. Had a rough winter with less than succesfull knee surgery--at 44 my Dr. says I will need a knee replacement soon. I'm gonna ride it out as long as the good Lord gives me the strength to.
Unfortunately, my worst nightmare has transpired, and I feel like I am about to lose my mind. My wife of 17 years, and the beautiful mother of my 4 childrem seems to have hit a mid-life crisis. She has asked me for a divorce. While I knew that things were not perfect (and I am certaibly not), she has grown tired of my mood swings and is leaving my home with the kids. She married me straight out of her Dad's home, and feels as though she needs to strike out on her own. I won't place blame--she has her needs, but this is my worst nightmare. We have a 20 month old miracle named Zeb, along with my 3 beautiful other children--and I can't bear the thought of them leaving my home.
She has found a rental, and I have written the check that she will use to move out next Monday. I can't face work (took this week off as vacation), can't face my friends, and am having a real hard time facing life right now. No, I am not considering anything final--I would not risk losing my soul nor scarring my children and loved ones for life.
I seriously need your prayers though--all I can pray is that Gods will be done. I don't feel very christian when my emotions well up--I'm 6'3" and have never lost a fight, much less been knocked down by any man I've ever faced, but this is different. My emotions can't be addressed by defense. She has made her decision, and it is killing my soul. She is a good woman, and would never keep my children from me (I have never physically abused any of them, and never would) she claims she still loves me, but I have not been her friend.
I am a very emotional person, and between my physical problems and downfalls emotionally, I have neglected my family.
Please pray for my family, and myself--I don't know how I'll ever get through this without Gods help--and all I can pray is that his will be done--just can't focus.
I am going away tommorrow to find myself again--hope it works.
Please pray for my wife Annie, sons Isaac, Silas, Zeb, and my beautiful daughter Lily.
Thank you. and God Bless,
Charlie Prince
PS--I haven't even been able to talk to my best friends about this, I'm too embarrassed. Pleasae pray for the courage for me to seek counsel--I just can't seem to make those calls.
God bless you all,
Charlie

jokester
03-28-2006, 10:18 PM
I can't even begin to imagine how you're feeling, but i'm sorry you're having to go through all of this Charlie :depressed: I'll be praying for you and your family :pray: :pray:

Trust in God, my friend...he will take you through it! :angel:

-jokester

Hooked on Fish
03-29-2006, 02:29 AM
WildHawg,

1. Put your marriage in prayer - I checked in the scriptures and God wants you to stay together. That's good news, God is on your families side.

2. You don't have time for pride - tell everyone you know to put your family in prayer. Prayer is powerful.

3. 3 words guy, Christian Marriage Counselor, and pronto! Do what you have to make it happen this week.

4. Talk to your preacher/minister/pastor daily during this time and get on your knees in prayer with him. If you don't currently have one, todays the day to get one.

5. If your wife still loves you and you love her, and you put Jesus smack dab in the middle, there's all the hope you'll need to save your marriage. Keep faith and hope.

There's much more I can share but this is what I called the "Crisis care" and "Life Support" portion of the steps that got us headed in the right direction.

AnglersRental
03-29-2006, 05:21 AM
:pray: Love you brother :pray:

Brad

Ryan Pultz
03-29-2006, 05:26 AM
I will be praying brother. rp

letsfish
03-29-2006, 08:29 AM
Praying for all concerned. Seek that counsel you will be glad you did.
So glad to here of Zeb's good health, was praying with you and family back when you shared the opportunity here on AC.

I can't help but think God is going to help you be drawn closer together.

PeterMac
03-29-2006, 01:42 PM
Charlie,

I am really sorry to hear about the challenges you are facing. You have made the right decision to get it out of your mind and talk about it; sharing here and with your friends and family will help tremendously.

If it was happening in my life, I would hope that I could realize that it was a lot bigger than me. I would have to let go of the situation and let God handle it 100%, not just part of it, but all of it. Turn it over brother, and let the Lord do his thing.

I'll be praying.

PeterMac

FM2
03-29-2006, 03:08 PM
Charlie,

I feel for you, check your pm

Blessings,
Keith

CATCH AND EAT
03-29-2006, 03:18 PM
My thoughts and prayers are for you and your family. I can't even imagine the pain. Get this out in the open and get some counseling right away.

Dullhook
03-29-2006, 04:02 PM
Please take some time to gather yourself and be alone with our Lord in prayer.

I will pray for your family.

DAB
03-29-2006, 07:49 PM
Charlie
Praying for you and your wife and kids.
DAB

SKP
03-30-2006, 12:20 PM
I'm praying for you and your family. There is very good advice here.

SKP

fishnwHim
03-31-2006, 07:52 AM
You have my thoughts and prayers :pray: :pray: :pray:

PapaHog
04-06-2006, 06:21 AM
God will take care of you and your family. Seek his will and pray his will be done on earth as it is in heaven.

You are in my prayers.

WildHawg
04-17-2006, 09:03 PM
praying for my family. I've gotten through the move-out... hardest day of my life, but life continues at full throttle.
My Mom (84), broke her leg severely the next Monday, and, though she hasn't asked for a divorce, Annie will say nothing to give me any hope of a future together. Spent Easter alone after plans were changed at the last minute.
Not feeling at all strong right now.
Please pray for my mother Lois Ann Prince, and my family Annie, Isaac, Silas, Lily, and Zebediah.
God Bless you and yours,
Charles

Hooked on Fish
04-17-2006, 09:06 PM
Wild Hawg, you and your family are in my prayers. Keep hope. God Bless.

fishnwHim
04-17-2006, 09:38 PM
Still praying for all of you :pray: :pray:

AnglersRental
04-17-2006, 10:57 PM
Every night Brother.

Brad

Ryan Pultz
04-18-2006, 02:57 AM
I am also praying Brother be strong! rp

letsfish
04-18-2006, 07:50 AM
I am with you in prayer!

Wreckless
04-18-2006, 08:47 AM
Saying a prayer :pray:

I know it's not the same, but I lost my job of 13 years and my wife of 9 in the same 3 months.....TOUGH.......7 years ago, things do work out!!!!

Be strong, the good lord will take care of you and yours.

rimrock
04-18-2006, 09:09 AM
Certainly difficult :depressed:. I pray you have a friend or someone you can talk to about this. I’m not referring to a marriage counselor but just an attentive ear, someone you can simply share what you going though. Prayer is great, but it doesn’t replace that.

Jennie@ifish
04-18-2006, 03:37 PM
I haven't been here for a while. I am so so sorry to hear this.

It makes me so sad to hear of people's struggles.

Man, life isn't easy at all for anyone. Is it?

I will pray for you. I will pray hard. :depressed:

Hang in there. I made it through a terrible heart ache. You can, too.

Or-- who knows what God has in store?

For now, though... Know that we all care, so much.

Hugs,
jen

DAB
04-18-2006, 05:10 PM
Charles.....Still Praying for you and your Family.
DAB

Raven1
04-18-2006, 10:45 PM
Charles:

Saying a prayer for you my brother. The Good Lord is watching over you folks right now.

Keep praying...